I do not know WHY, but so many people think that it is selfish and wrong to exclude people on YOUR wedding day! A wedding day is literally the ONE day where its OKAY to be selfish and the day can be entirely about YOU GUYS. So if you want ten people, two people or ZERO people there, that’s YOUR call. The weird stigma that exists around eloping is giving “stuck in the 1950’s”, and it needs to be ended. Eloping is not a sin, selfish, bad, wrong, or anything negative/shameful whatsoever!! You ready to feel validated in your decision to elope, or to be convinced that eloping might be right for you?
Here’s some reasons why elopements are FAR from selfish
I like to think of the idea of eloping as self-care rather than self-ish.
If you choose to elope, you are choosing to celebrate your relationship in a way that you know is the best representation of you and your partner. If you know that having other people there on your wedding day will stress you out, cause chaos and DISTRACT you from the entire meaning of the day, you are literally taking take of yourself by choosing not to have a big wedding.
Elopements are all about doing what’s best for you and making that a priority and, GUESS WHAT, so is the concept of self-care! It means choosing the route that will make you feel the most comfortable, happy, loved, and ready for an incredible wedding experience, not the route that might cause you frustration and prevent you from experiencing all the joy of your wedding day!!
By making a decision that is right for you and your partner, you’re not being selfish: you’re being self-AWARE of your needs + desires, and by following that, you’re taking care of yourselves! Is it selfish to elope and protect your and your partners’ joy? NO!
Your wedding should revolve around you
The entire point of a wedding is to celebrate YOU GUYS. Of course your loved ones play (or don’t!) a huge role in your lives, but your WEDDING should be about celebrating you. The focus should not be how others play a part in your relationship. If there are people you want there, PERFECT, bring em! But if not, you don’t need to feel bad about it, you are celebrating you and your partner on this day, not them.
Couples who choose to have traditional weddings are not labeled “selfish”, because a wedding is your choice! You deserve to have the day that you WANT! Your wedding is an entire day to focus on each other and celebrate your relationship! No couple having a traditional wedding is out here googling “Is it selfish to have a big wedding?” Why are we trying to google “Is it selfish to elope?” Your wedding is your wedding!
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You don’t owe anyone anything
Eloping isn’t selfish, because you don’t owe anybody anything. You can choose to have a private elopement and STILL be thankful for your loved ones, still show them your love, without inviting them to your actual elopement.
Just because you elope without guests doesn’t mean you love your friends & fam any less – it just means that you know what’s best for you, and what’s best for you is celebrating on your own!
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This is a day for YOU and about YOU, not for or about them. And if they love you and want the best for you, they will understand! It might take some time and thinking for them to fully understand that it’s nothing personal, because society HAS kinda nailed it into our heads that not inviting your family members to your wedding basically means you’re shunning them. Truly, it does not mean that!
Only you guys know what will be most meaningful to you
The choice of how you will get married is yours to make because only you two know what will be the most meaningful day to you. Your friends, your mom, your Aunt Betty can tell you what THEY think will be best, but in the end, only you know what is truly best for you guys!
As much as your friends & family might love you, they don’t necessarily know that a private elopement will bring you the most peace, happiness, and fulfillment on your wedding day together. They might not know that they’d cause you too much stress if they were present, and that it would inhibit your ability to fully enjoy the day.
Only you guys really know what you want, how you feel, and what will be best for YOUR wedding day!
You deserve to have ZERO regrets
I’ve spoked to so many couples over the years who say ” we wish we would have eloped”. Lots of couples are pressured into having a bigger event than they originally wanted and regret not standing up for what they truly wanted. You deserve to have an amazing wedding day full of joy and NO REGRET, so plan a day for yourselves that will leave you with amazing memories and no remorse!
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